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For women done with over giving and second guessing - ready to speak softly, keep standards high and let love deepen week by week. This surprise “Secret Obsession” is an incredibly powerful biological drive all men are influenced by, more than their own sex drive -even when they're in love or infatuated. When this Instinct is triggered properly, he'll find everything about you extraordinarily fascinating and be driven to do anything possible to make sure you're happy. Awakening a man's Hero Instinct is an effective way to make him fall in love with you; making him work to earn your affection… while enjoying every bit of that journey. You can become his primary obsession by revealing your own needs and wants instead of trying to please him all of the time.

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Learn 3 simple words with my discovery: The I Owe You Signal, and make it easy for him to trust only you as his confidant — even above his guy friends. Rekindle conversation with 12 explosive little words called the “Ex-Back Signal” – something he couldn’t possibly ignore or resist. Learn why men leave women they love (the #1 Reason) + tap into his Hero Instinct with The Private Island signal to completely reverse the effect. Use 4 simple words (to activate Pursuit Mode) whenever you want proof that his feelings for you run deeper than he wants to admit. Make emotional deposits each day using what I call the ‘Secret Currency' & watch how fast it strengthens your bond. Feeling disconnected? Energize any relationship using 1 text message guaranteed for undivided attention. Men crave a certain “secret ingredient” in a relationship that is more than just attraction and good chemistry. Most women, and men for that matter, are not aware it even exists. It’s what separates “like” from “love.” So when it’s missing, a man might be attracted to a woman and even tell her that he loves her, but he’ll always wonder if she really is “The One.” In this video we will reveal that “secret ingredient” and how they can use it to attract and commit the man of their dreams.

REAL TESTIMONIALS FROM HIS SECRET OBSESSION READERSDear James,This is the first time I have replied to one of your outstanding emails. Your insights and advice have literally saved my one-year relationship from going down in ruins as so many in my past have done. I join the chorus of voices who praise your talents.I almost destroyed what I have by going through exactly what you describe in Destructive Abundance. When he first called me, I was over-the-moon thrilled. A month later when I accused him of not calling often enough, the self-sabotage began.Learning about Anxious Attachment and your steady stream of coaching emails changed my expectations. I took responsibility for my fears. Now we are growing in love – healthy love. Thank you for helping me. By the way, we are both 80 years old, so old patterns can emerge no matter what age you are. You don’t just grow out of old fears; you learn to take on the challenges of changing self – not your partner.In closing, I sold my house today. I was disappointed I didn’t get more money even though I made a large profit on the sale. I expressed this to my partner and he encouraged me to be content with what transpired and feel free now to enjoy our future together. Amazing what a change in perspective can do!Always appreciative,LindaHi James,I purchased your course yesterday and got to module 6 last night. Just from the introduction video I could see what I had done to make a male friend (whom I would like to be more than a friend) pull away from me. How I had switched off his hero instinct by being too independent and not allowing him to win with me. Situations where he was almost pleading to let him help me and I didn’t let him.I sent him a message last night using some of the things you’d mentioned, just telling him I really appreciated him and everything he’s done for me, and that I couldn’t imagine my life without him in it.. in whatever capacity he chooses that to be.I am amazed at the increase in frequency of messages and replies from him, maybe it’s not too broken to fix.. you have given me hope and that’s something that’s been very short in my life over the last few years. I’m going to continue the course later when I finish work.. a lot of these things I did automatically when he and I became friends but I allowed my emotions and insecurities to change that.I’m looking forward to learning more but just wanted to tell you what’s happened so far. Your little section where you explain depression has also helped me hugely, by not allowing myself hope I have been making my depression so much worse!! You changed that yesterday.. thank you.Many thanks,LornaThank you for your program, your tricks & tips & your amazing insight into relationships. I just turned 71, became a widow 4 yrs. ago, & was married for 48 yrs. to the same wonderful man. Having married young, at the age of 18, I was never really out in the dating world much & thought my life was over after losing my husband. It took me 4 yrs. to finally “wake up” to feelings that have been dead for so long. I have recently begun putting myself out there again & it’s so difficult. I look like I’m in my 50’s and am intelligent, pretty, bubbly, outgoing & have many friends & a big family. I have a wide variety of interests & love stimulating & intelligent conversation. It’s difficult because men around my age look even older, act old & have not many interests other than working, doing things around their homes or other interests & don’t seem to have time or want to give time to a relationship. Sorry this is so long but I wanted to explain my situation a little & to thank you for helping me navigate through today’s dating world. I so look forward to your tips & constantly refer back to them. Sometimes I feel like you are my own personal relationship coach. God bless you, James. Please know that you are really helping women who do avail themselves of the words you offer.Mary AnnI have gotten incredible value from your book on the hero instinct. I’ve been a fan of evolutionary psychology for a long time, but had never seen it being used for practical relationship advice. Thank you! Great job on adding incredible value to the world.IsabelleThis is just a note to say how much I appreciate James Bauer’s wise and steady advice.Thanks,CynthiaDear James, I just wanted to thank you for the tremendous help that your book gave me.
I have learned something very important from it and in allowing this new knowledge to shape my communication, I reached out to the man I love and who had been silent for weeks in such a way that he responded within a couple of hours.
This means to me more than you can possibly imagine.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
With deep gratitude and best wishes,AliceOmg, I’m seeing effects already from your tips!!!!! 😍💕😍💕😍💕
Thank yooou,JessicaI texted him those 12 words. Genius! You are my hero.CathyI have to say, I was “friends” with a man who said he didn’t want a committed relationship, then I bought this program, and now we are engaged. He only wants to be with me and he told me he has turned in his “player’s card.” His Facebook profile says in a relationship for the very first time! He introduced me to his family and told them he is done being a player. Listen to the experts!Thank you
RiRiI just want to tell you that I am so grateful I came across your book, His Secret Obsession.I been reading a lot of stuff on Pinterest about how do you know your man is in love with you, or he is the one if he does this things…..
He portrays the man that loves me and that he is husband material and what not. But sometimes I feel so insecure that one day he would just forget about me or replace me.Until one day I came across your book. Reading it makes a lot of sense because I have been doing the strategies and that’s when I feel like he is so in love with me, I just wasn’t aware.Now that I’m aware on what to do and what not to do, our relationship went to the next level.He sees me in his future, he is making plans for us and envisioning what our house is going to be, our life when we grow old, he is considering things I like and want. We used to talked about the past, our struggles and our complains about life. Now we are talking about the future. That’s a big change!!!I feel like I’m doing all right and not compromising who I am and my happiness.So with that being said, your book is a life saver and game changer. I’m going to share this to my homegirls.AiraHey I listened to your book…His Secret Obsession!It’s simply amazing! I had been texting with this one guy for like 5 months…he always said that he wanted to meet up but when I’d invite him he’d always have excuses!
I sent him the twelve word txt message the other day…and guess what! He texted back faster then I’d ever seen! Like he was ready to see the message the minute it hit his phone!(that was after 3 to 4 days of no contact.)And after that things changed drastically!Now he’s the one that’s always talking about meeting up n making things happen!
He told me the other night that I was different…and that with me he let his guards down n that I was the only girl that actually made him wanna take the risk and fall in love again!Bless you James! You’re doing a wonderful work! Keep it up!Martha K.James, you never fail me. Thank you for having given my marriage hope, when all seemed lost. Your insights were the beginning of a different mindset for me. Where would we be without you? Divorced, or separated for sure. You changed my mind, you changed my marriage. I am forever grateful! You helped me to realize what a wonderful husband I have. I can never repay you for this extremely valuable information. So I want to say “THANK YOU JAMES, you are the BEST RELATIONSHIP COACH OUT THERE!”Anna D.Hi James. I’ve followed you for 3+ years to become the best me I can be so that I could understand myself and the man I’ve wanted to attract into my life. It took 3 years, and I found the One. We married last year. Thank you for your positive grounded advice and understanding of a woman’s perspective. I had a lot to learn about myself.Even if my idea is not one you can use, I want to thank you directly for what you’ve done for me. I’m over 50 and several of my women friends are in the same boat so I send them your articles when I think it may help them.Many women take care of themselves with beauty products, treatments, yoga, and exercise but are they really taking care of their hormones? Men and women change as they age and we should take care of our hormones as well. There are reputable doctors specializing in this area now along with internationally known doctors, changing women’s lives in a natural way to make us feel and look youthful much longer. I took advantage of this ten years ago as my sister did and we feel great.Your advice I believe works for many walks of life, eg, young people just starting out and every ten years after that, whether you’re looking for a relationship, engaged, widowed, or divorced.James, keep up the good work. Believing in making choices for yourself first then selflessly for our partners makes for a very enjoyable real life you can have together. I know life throws difficulties in our paths and my plan is to keep reading your advice for ways I can remind myself how to keep strong, loving, and positive.Keep helping and advising us. It works!Nancy G.Honestly, I am quarantined in my home because of Covid19 and I haven’t gotten paid in the past two weeks. I’ve been going through a really rough break up. Moved from Florida to Michigan last year with an entire house full of furniture and belongings, after only 10 months I moved back to Florida as it didn’t work out.The point is I am pretty broke, the moves weren’t cheap (1300 miles each way) and my current state of (hopefully temporary) unemployment has got me a little concerned about finances. I paid a counselor recently $90 to tell me to meditate 5-10 times a day. So when I saw your course for only $47 even though money is tight I figured it’s more than your average self-help book but almost half the price of the counselor I saw who really didn’t help me at all.Then I saw the Endless Honeymoon course I decided to go ahead with that purchase as well mostly because of the money-back guarantee. I read His Secret Obsession and although I found it helpful once complete I went straight into the Honeymoon book/series and was so pleasantly surprised by the insight and relevance despite the fact that I am single and not even in a relationship at the moment. I went into this purchase thinking hey worst-case scenario I can request a full refund.I will not be needing my money back thank you! 🙂 I got more out of those two books/courses than all the other avenues I’ve tried to get over and past my breakup. Great job totally worth every penny I’m happy to report. That is all, no complaints, only kudos!Kelli SYour His Secret Obsession course is AMAZING – one afternoon of solid listening, I’ve put it into practice and the effects are phenomenal! You truly have saved our relationship and, while it is only a week later, we are already going from strength to strength. And we both see a wonderful future ahead of us. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.Best investment ever!!!Claudia H.

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